Don’t Scam Yourself. We use the word “scam” so often that the word itself has not only lost its meaning but lost much of its negative connotation. The dictionary defines a scam as a dishonest scheme, but there are always two sides to every story. Is the scheme dishonest or was the person that fell for the scheme asking to get scammed?
Many call the workforce a scam; why would you want to work a 9-5 only to be rejected at some point and lose all your efforts?
Working for the promise of a pension, security, and more, under the constant threat of losing your job, is definitely a stressful proposition.But is the workforce really a scam or were your expectations and understanding of it what made you believe you got scammed?
Many call the education system a scam. Why would you go to college and accrue $10,000 or even $100,000 in debt only to find yourself unemployed? Why would you pay for an education that you will never use? The promise of security, success, and a decent base salary that never comes? Is formal education a scam? Or is the person who chose their major, chose their classes, and paid for the classes the one whose misunderstanding of the system made them believe they were getting scammed?
Many say that self-education or home education courses are scams. Why buy a DVD that teaches you something that is hard to apply and will require a lot of work after watching it? Why invest $49 to learn a skill you will never use? Is the self-help course a scam or is the lazy person buying it expecting miracles to happen the one misunderstanding what they are buying and how to use it?
The question I pose today is simple: are scams real? Or are people blaming their failures on the idea of having been scammed, so that they don’t have to justify their continued laziness and failure?
These three simple examples are only a very small sample of what people are calling scams. Every time a social network post goes up about it, everyone seems to agree with the idea that if someone has gotten scammed, then it most likely is something they should not be exposed to. I am going to break down the difference between how a successful person who has built up a successful life on their own thinks, and how someone who has yet to have any major achievements thinks. You can then determine which side you want to take in future “scams.”
Poor Person: I went to school and am $15,000 in debt. I am unemployed and looking for work; I lost four years of my life listening to teachers who didn’t teach me anything. The education system is a scam.
Successful Person: I went to school and am $15,000 in debt. I am currently unemployed and looking for work. I spent four years of my life listening to teachers, but perhaps I didn’t choose the right major and didn’t pay close enough attention to everything else the school offered beyond the classroom. If I would have known that I can usually get scholarships, grants, and other resources to help keep the debt lower, I most likely would not be in debt today. Lesson learned. Now I will learn how to write a better resume and sharpen my own skills so that I am more marketable for a job.
Poor Person: I worked 10 years at a job, gave it my all, made a lot of friends from coworkers, and listened to my boss only to find myself constantly exposed to changing policies, more training, and them hiring younger talent for less money. They eventually fired me, because I broke one rule or policy. Working for others is such a scam.
Successful Person: I worked 10 years at a job, gave it my all, made a lot of friends from coworkers, and listened to my boss only to find myself constantly exposed to changing policies, more training, and them hiring younger talent for less money. They eventually fired me, because I broke one rule or policy. I wonder if I could have prevented that by keeping myself up to date and showing them what my value really was by improving my skills on my own time. I learned a lot in my 10 years there: valuable learning I can use today as experience to be more marketable. Using these skills, I can even look into being in business for myself, because I am not sure the corporate system is for me since I am more independent and creative. Lesson learned, but I may have to find another job until I can support my new business ideas.
Poor Person: I read a lot of books, watch a lot of courses, understand the systems that make people millions of dollars and keep them healthy physically. I applied all I learned in my first business and lost everything. I was forced to go back to work for someone else. I even tried trading stocks on the side, because others were said to make millions. I never made my millions and didn’t make it. Reading those books and buying those courses is all a scam.
Successful Person: I read a lot of books, watch a lot of courses, understand the systems that make people millions of dollars and keep them healthy physically. I applied all I learned in my first business and lost everything. I was forced to go back to work for someone else. I even tried trading stocks on the side, because others were said to make millions. I never made my millions and didn’t make it. I wonder if I actually learned the habits these courses were teaching or was I looking for an overnight get rich solution? Perhaps I need to better my daily habits to incorporate some of these things I learned so that over time, the better version of myself can start winning. Some very valuable experiences learned in these past few months trying to make it will be invaluable on my next attempt. I also realized a few more things to learn that I wasn’t mature about before. I will revisit some of these courses and actually form better habits.
Life isn’t a scam; people who misunderstand life are the ones getting scammed — it’s always in your hands.
Don’t scam yourself out of a great life.